Lars Toomre

Some Personal Thoughts, Observations and Trivia

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The Four Agreements

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Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Author of best-selling book "The Four Agreements"

Don't Deserve Me at My Best

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I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

Iconic American actress

Don Miguel Ruiz on Taking Action

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When you always do your best, you take action. Doing your best is taking action because you love it, not because you are expecting a reward.

Author of The Four Agreements

W. Somerset Maugham on Expectations

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It is a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it.

English dramatist and novelist (1874-1965)

To Do My Best

I have learned to do my best, and if the end result is good then I do not care for any criticism, but if the end result is not good, then even the praise of ten angels would not make the difference.

Always Saying "No" To Something

Keep in mind that you are always saying "no" to something. If it isn't to the apparent, urgent things in your life, it is probably to the more fundamental, highly important things. Even when the urgent is good, the good can keep you from your best, keep you from your unique contribution, if you let it.

A Bigger "Yes" Burning Inside

You have to decide what your highest priorities and have the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically — to say "no" to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger "yes" burning inside. The enemy of the "best" is often the "good."