Lars Toomre

Some Personal Thoughts and Trivia

Expect

Without Bending To Make Ourselves Acceptable

Irish actor Brendan Gleeson

I think it was a possibility, I think we're all kind of delusional like that, we think that we can all carry on being who we are without bending ourselves to make ourselves acceptable and expect someone to come along and see to us and rescue to us.

Irish actor (born 1955)

Thought for Today: See Heaven

Sunny day at base of the mountains of Grand Teton National Park

"Hell is other people," so said Sartre. What a way to start the day! If this is our perception of others, even if it is just one other, then we can expect both the people and the day to be hell. We all know how fast expectations can become self-fulfilling prophecies. We seem to forget that other people are always in two places at once — out there and in our heads. And if we decide others are hell we therefore create hell for ourselves in our own heads. So let's do a little work, not too much, and transform our own vision. What do you prefer hell or heaven? When heaven is other people we will know our transformation is complete. Remember, everyone has a little piece of heaven inside their heart. Have you found yours? If not then start in your head, practice perceiving heaven in other people and let the day be heavenly. You will be amazed what comes out of your heart when you make this little effort with your head.

War Definition From Devil's Dictionary

Brunette American model Nicole Scherzinger poses wearing white sweater off shoulders

WAR, noun: A by-product of the arts of peace. The most menacing political condition is a period of international amity. The student of history who has not been taught to expect the unexpected may justly boast himself inaccessible to the light. "In time of peace prepare for war" has a deeper meaning than is commonly discerned; it means, not merely that all things earthly have an end — that change is the one immutable and eternal law — but that the soil of peace is thickly sown with the seeds of war and singularly suited to their germination and growth. It was when Kubla Khan had decreed his "stately pleasure dome" — when, that is to say, there were peace and fat feasting in Xanadu — that he heard from afar Ancestral voices prophesying war.

One of the greatest of poets, Coleridge was one of the wisest of men, and it was not for nothing that he read us this parable. Let us have a little less of "hands across the sea," and a little more of that elemental distrust that is the security of nations. War loves to come like a thief in the night; professions of eternal amity provide the night.

Be You Fully In This Moment

English singer and songwriter Brian Johnson wearing his signature cap

Quit putting yourself in a little box by trying to live consistently with your past and explaining every little action you take. BE YOU. Fully. In this moment. Independent of what others may or may not 'expect' from you.

English singer and songwriter who is lead singer of Australian rock band AC/DC (born 1947)

The Artist's Way Every Day - March 16th

Brunette beauty Aida Yespica displays her full cleavage leaning forward

Part of husbanding our talent lies in finding those who are generous enough to reflect us back as talented. Creativity flourishes in an atomsphere of acceptance. As we learn to number friends to our work among our friends, that work can strengthen and bloom. Believing mirrors are believers, first of all, in the basic good of life. Setting aside chic skepticism, they are upbeat and encouraging. They believe in the college try. What's more, they believe in trying again. They are realists. They expect good things, but they know good things take work. They assume you will do the work becuase your dreams are good and worthy. They will help you if they can. If could be argued that friendship is often the determining factor between a career that flourishes and one that languishes. We are responsible for choosing our friends.

The Artist's Way Every Day - January 11th

Blonde model Jennifer Scholle poses in a grey bikini

An artist must have downtime, time to do nothing. Defending our right to such time takes courage, conviction, and resiliency. Such time, space, and quiet will strike our family and friends as a withdrawal from them. It is. For an artist, withdrawal is necessary. Without it, the artist in us feels vexed, angry, out of sorts. If such deprivation continues, our artist becomes sullen, depressed, hostile. We expect our artist to be able to function without giving it what it needs to do so. An artist requires the upkeep of creative solitude. An artist requires the healing of time alone.

Thought for Today: Learn Not To Rush

Patience in spring plowing Going-to-The-Sun Road at Glacier National Park

When I find that I am expecting too much from myself, I have to remind myself that I will achieve what I have to when I pace myself in the proper way. Trying to do too much at one time will only leave me exhausted and will achieve little. I need to learn not to rush things, but to tackle each task with care. Patience leads to greater success in the long run.

Far Too Many People Expect Little

Brunette beauty Brittany Sharp poses as Miss Georgia USA 2103

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car... a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little.

Al-Anon Wisdom on Expectations

Butterfly serenity

The higher the expectations, the lower the serenity. I try to keep my boundaries high, my expectations low, and my heart open.

Thought for Today: I am Love

Fence and field near Grand Teton National Park

We seek it here, we seek it there, we look for love everywhere! We expect it to come to us, usually through another person. All our conditioning says it is something that happens to us. The mythology of our fables, legends and modern day entertainment industries say it is something we 'fall into'. And yet...and yet real love cannot be acquired, possessed or accumulated. It cannot be known when we think it comes from outside ourselves. The ultimate paradox is we are it. We are love. Each one of us is a source of love that has forgotten that 'love is what I am'. Say it now "I am love". Doesn't feel right does it? That's because its been so long since we knew and experienced ourselves in this true way. And yet we all know that the deepest trust and the purest love is known and experienced only when we give it, not take it. As we give love in whatever way is appropriate, we are the ones to experience it first, on the way out. Falling in love is impossible. It is only infatuation, obsession with an external object which appears to fill a gap in ourselves. As soon as the object or person is remembered when they are not present and when they do not need to be remembered, it is simply attachment which, if sustained, will become a dependency. And attachment and dependency are not love. But you already know that...don't you?

Thought for Today: The Spiritual Aspect Of Healthcare

Silence, pure thoughts and happiness contribute to healthy life near this lake

Silence, happiness, love and blessings are important aspects. Happiness leads to good health. It is only you who can give this medicine to yourself. Some bring illness to themselves through anger, greed, unfullfilled desires, expectations, suppression of feelings and relationships not based on true love. Look in your heart, you will know where your illness comes from. There are three ingredients for a long and healthy life: live with attention but without worry; use time in a worthwhile way; keep your thoughts pure, positive and filled with strength.

True Meaning Of Life Is To Plant Trees

Blonde American actress and model Melissa Ordway wearing a grey jacket

The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit.

Son of Canadian immigrant from Ireland who wrote affectionately of his father

The Artist's Way Every Day - October 8th

Blonde Australian singer-songwriter, pianist and actress, Delta Goodrem

Once we accept that creativity is a spiritual act, it doesn't seem like a far jump to expect such synchronicity to be at hand. The is a benevolent Something that is kindly toward ourselves and our art. The Great Creator is an artiist and loves other artists. The Divine does play a hand in what what it is we are making. We can consciously choose to invite divine participation. We can ask for and receive divine help and guidance. We do not need to to feel our dreams and God's will for us are at opposite ends of the table. We can consider the possibility that our dreams come from God and that God has a plan for their proper unfolding. When we seek daily spiritual guidance, we are guided toward the next step forward for our art. It will come to us as the hunch, the inkling, the itch. It will come to us as timely conversations with others. It will come to us in many ways — but it will come to us.

Speak To Us Of Expectations

Then a man said: Speak to us of Expectations.

He then said: If a man does not see or hear the waters of the Jordan, then he should not taste the pomegranate or ply his wares in an open market.

If a man would not labour in the salt and rock quarries then he should not accept of the Earth that which he refuses to give of himself.

Such a man would expect a pear of a peach tree.

Such a man would expect a stone to lay an egg.

Such a man would expect Sears to assemble a lawnmower.

From his book The Profit, p. 1973

Deal With Others In A Just Manner

Blonde American model Britt Maren wearing light teal top

In this world do not expect justice, but when it is your turn, deal with others in a just manner.

Aim To Exploit To Be Trusted To Educate Us

Blonde beauty Lisa Matthews was Playboy's Playmate of the Month for April 1990

Can we truly expect those who aim to exploit us to be trusted to educate us?

Author of 2003 web article The Common Man

Dedication Is What One Can Give Others

Brunette American actress Mariska Hargitay speaking in a blue dress

Dedication is not what others expect of you, it is what you can give to others.

Promise Myself To Be So Strong

Blonde American reality TV actress Emily Maynard wearing a purple dress

I promise myself…to be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind; to talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet; to make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them; to look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true; to think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best; to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own; to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future; to wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet; to give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others; to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble; to think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds; to live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

American teacher and founder of New Thought movement (1874 - 1954)

Miracles Never Cease To Amaze

Miracles never cease to amaze me. I expect them, but their consistent arrival is always delightful to experience.

American inspirational and motivational speaker, trainer and author particularly known for Chicken Soup for the Soul book series (born 1948)

Borrow Money From A Pessimist

Blonde Australian actress Abbie Cornish poses in a beige dress

Borrow money from a pessimist — they don't expect it back.